Very few people actually like small talk. If only we could skip the pleasantries and dive right into more meaningful conversation. And, here are a few suggestions on making small talk for people with introverted personality traits…
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One reason why small talk is boring is that we often ask questions that can be answered in just one or two words. Try something more open-ended Specially to get on with Questions like these invite the other person to tell a story.
· “What’s your story?”
· “What’s the strangest thing about where you grew up?”
· “How’d you end up in your line of work?”
“How was your day?”
“How was your weekend?”
“How long have you been living here?”
The quality of curiosity is highly attractive, and it creates immediate interest and intimacy.Put yourself in the mindset of being curious to learn more about the other person. You’ll listen more intently, your body language will show that you’re engaged, and you’ll naturally think of questions that move the conversation forward.
Keep It Simple
Be unique and memorable, but also simple. Typically, the open answer or question works best;
You can be playful and funny, but it needs to be presented with confidence and a huge smile.
A nice compliment can be a great opening line, as long as the compliment is not followed by a cheesy pick-up line. Be honest and sincere.
If you’re a regular at a place like a gym or church – look for new faces: Introduce yourself and ask them if they are new. If they are new, tell them about your involvement and ask what might interest them. If they aren’t new, but you just never crossed paths, find out what has changed in order for you to now be participating at the same time.